Children of the Self Absorbed

Children of the Self Absorbed
Author: Nina W Brown
Publsiher: New Harbinger Publications
Total Pages: 266
Release: 2008-04-01
ISBN: 1608820645
Category: Family & Relationships
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Children of the Self Absorbed Book Excerpt:

Being a parent is usually all about giving of yourself to foster your child's growth and development. But what happens when this isn't the case? Some parents dismiss the needs of their children, asserting their own instead, demanding attention and reassurance from even very young children. This may especially be the case when a parent has narcissistic tendencies or narcissistic personality disorder. From the author of Working with the Self-Absorbed and Loving the Self-Absorbed, this major revision of a self-help classic offers a step-by-step approach to resolving conflict and building a meaningful relationship with a narcissistic parent. Children of the Self-Absorbed offers clear definitions of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder to help you identify the extent of your parent's problem. You'll learn the different types of destructive narcissism and how to recognize their effects on relationships. With the aid of proven techniques, you'll discover that you're not helpless against your parent's behavior and that you needn't consider giving up on the relationship. Instead, realistic strategies and steps are suggested for learning to set mutually agreed upon behaviors that can help you fulfill your needs and expectations.

Children of the Self Absorbed

Children of the Self Absorbed
Author: Nina W. Brown
Publsiher: ReadHowYouWant.com
Total Pages: 364
Release: 2009-11
ISBN: 1458745031
Category: Family & Relationships
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Children of the Self Absorbed Book Excerpt:

This book grew out of my search for understanding of my reactions to a colleague who aroused considerable frustration and anguish in practically everyone this person encountered. However, none of us talked to each other about it and I continued to engage in much self-examination, looking for my unresolved issues that could be making me react so strongly to this person. Nothing I could think of seemed to fit, so I continued to try to dissolve my resistance and defenses, all to no avail. A meeting with colleagues started me on a more fruitful path. The meeting was on a professional concern, but I happened to make a comment that I went home and took two headache pills after a recent conversation with the distressing colleague. I was surprised to hear from every person at the meeting (about ten people) that they, too, had headaches or stomachaches every time they interacted with the person. Although we didn't spend much time recounting our reactions and experiences, I realized that part of the problem was the other person. That realization sent me to the literature, and what emerged was the description for the destructive narcissistic pattern. Everything fit, including the personal reactions I'd had with the colleague. Researching causes and development of the destructive narcissistic pattern (DNP) led me to reflect about the effects on a child when either one or both parents had the pattern. As I continued to explore the research, I began to better understand some of my personal experiences and those that many of my students and clients had reported. Many of their adult reactions, behaviors, and attitudes could be a result of having one or more parents who had a destructive narcissistic pattern. Out of these realizations and experiences emerged this book. But understanding was not enough. If what I'd learned was to truly be helpful, I needed to find a way not only to explain the destructive narcissistic pattern in ways that would be easy to understand, but to provide some personal growth strategies as well. What I wanted to do was to give people some resources for providing themselves with the parenting they needed but did not receive. This was my challenge and what follows is my attempt to provide some understanding and guidance.

Children of the Aging Self Absorbed

Children of the Aging Self Absorbed
Author: Nina W Brown
Publsiher: New Harbinger Publications
Total Pages: 200
Release: 2015-09-01
ISBN: 1626252068
Category: Family & Relationships
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Children of the Aging Self Absorbed Book Excerpt:

Growing up with a parent who is self-absorbed is difficult, and they may become more difficult to deal with as they age. This essential book shows how to cope with your aging parent's narcissistic behavior, and provides tips to help protect yourself and your children from their self-absorbed, destructive actions. As your self-absorbed parent grows older and becomes more dependent on you, hurtful relationships may resurface and become further strained. In the tradition of Children of the Self-Absorbed, author Nina Brown offers the first book for adult children of aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parents. You will learn practical, powerful strategies for navigating the intense negative feelings that your parents can incite, as well as tips to protect your children from the criticism, blame, or hostility that may exist between you and their grandparent. In this book, you will gain greater awareness of how and why your parent's self-absorbed behaviors and attitudes get worse, and develop strategies to manage the negative feelings that can arise as a result. You'll also learn to reduce the shame and guilt that may be felt when you feel like you don't want to be a caretaker. Finally, you'll learn to set limits with your parent so you can stay sane during this difficult time. Having an aging parent can be stressful enough, but dealing with an aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parent is especially challenging. This essential guide will help you through.

Raising Unselfish Children in a Self Absorbed World

Raising Unselfish Children in a Self Absorbed World
Author: Jill Rigby
Publsiher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 240
Release: 2008-04-01
ISBN: 1416560556
Category: Religion
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Raising Unselfish Children in a Self Absorbed World Book Excerpt:

Child expert Jill Rigby reveals the dangers of the self-esteem parenting philosophy and offers an alternative approach that teaches children to respect both themselves and others. After decades of experimenting with child-focused parenting, parents are beginning to realize that the result is often self-centered children who tend toward narcissism, selfishness, mediocrity, and dysfunction. Rigby espouses a new goal of parenting: gently bumping children off self-center and teaching them to be unselfish givers instead. Raising Unselfish Children in a Self-Absorbed World dares to revisit the values of compassion, forgiveness, thanksgiving, and unselfishness and insists that we can instill these values in our children. With her encouraging approach, Rigby helps parents realize it's never too late to change their children's point of view and equip them to interact with kindness and respect in a world outside themselves. Teaching concepts, such as developing a passion for compassion, learning to give by forgiving, and filling every day with thanksgiving, Raising Unselfish Children in a Self-Absorbed World offers a new paradigm for parenting -- one that educates the heart and teaches moms and dads how to parent with a new end in mind.

Children of the Self Absorbed

Children of the Self Absorbed
Author: Nina W Brown, Ed.D., Lpc
Publsiher: Tantor Media Incorporated
Total Pages: 135
Release: 2014-05-10
ISBN: 9781452624266
Category: FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Children of the Self Absorbed Book Excerpt:

A second edition of a self-help classic, "Children of the Self-Absorbed" offers the adult children of narcissistic parents the means to understand and cope with the behaviors and attitudes of their mothers and/or fathers while still meeting their own needs.

Children of the Self Absorbed

Children of the Self Absorbed
Author: Nina W. Brown
Publsiher: Unknown
Total Pages: 370
Release: 2009-12-08
ISBN: 9780369323163
Category: Family & Relationships
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Children of the Self Absorbed Book Excerpt:

This book grew out of my search for understanding of my reactions to a colleague who aroused considerable frustration and anguish in practically everyone this person encountered. However, none of us talked to each other about it and I continued to engage in much self-examination, looking for my unresolved issues that could be making me react so strongly to this person. Nothing I could think of seemed to fit, so I continued to try to dissolve my resistance and defenses, all to no avail. A meeting with colleagues started me on a more fruitful path. The meeting was on a professional concern, but I happened to make a comment that I went home and took two headache pills after a recent conversation with the distressing colleague. I was surprised to hear from every person at the meeting (about ten people) that they, too, had headaches or stomachaches every time they interacted with the person. Although we didn't spend much time recounting our reactions and experiences, I realized that part of the problem was the other person. That realization sent me to the literature, and what emerged was the description for the destructive narcissistic pattern. Everything fit, including the personal reactions I'd had with the colleague. Researching causes and development of the destructive narcissistic pattern (DNP) led me to reflect about the effects on a child when either one or both parents had the pattern. As I continued to explore the research, I began to better understand some of my personal experiences and those that many of my students and clients had reported. Many of their adult reactions, behaviors, and attitudes could be a result of having one or more parents who had a destructive narcissistic pattern. Out of these realizations and experiences emerged this book. But understanding was not enough. If what I'd learned was to truly be helpful, I needed to find a way not only to explain the destructive narcissistic pattern in ways that would be easy to understand, but to provide some personal growth strategies as well. What I wanted to do was to give people some resources for providing themselves with the parenting they needed but did not receive. This was my challenge and what follows is my attempt to provide some understanding and guidance.

Children of the Self Absorbed

Children of the Self Absorbed
Author: Nina Brown
Publsiher: Unknown
Total Pages: 0
Release: 2022-05
ISBN: 9787512513822
Category: Electronic Book
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Children of the Self Absorbed Book Excerpt:

Simplified Chinese Edition of [Children of the Self-Absorbed]

Selfish Shallow and Self Absorbed

Selfish  Shallow  and Self Absorbed
Author: Meghan Daum
Publsiher: Picador
Total Pages: 288
Release: 2015-03-31
ISBN: 1250052947
Category: Literary Collections
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Selfish Shallow and Self Absorbed Book Excerpt:

SIXTEEN LITERARY LUMINARIES ON THE CONTROVERSIAL SUBJECT OF BEING CHILDLESS BY CHOICE, COLLECTED IN ONE FASCINATING ANTHOLOGY One of the main topics of cultural conversation during the last decade was the supposed "fertility crisis," and whether modern women could figure out a way to have it all-a successful, demanding career and the required 2.3 children-before their biological clock stopped ticking. Now, however, conversation has turned to whether it's necessary to have it all (see Anne-Marie Slaughter) or, perhaps more controversial, whether children are really a requirement for a fulfilling life. The idea that some women and men prefer not to have children is often met with sharp criticism and incredulity by the public and mainstream media. In this provocative and controversial collection of essays, curated by writer Meghan Daum, sixteen acclaimed writers explain why they have chosen to eschew parenthood. Contributors include Lionel Shriver, Sigrid Nunez, Kate Christiensen, Elliott Holt, Geoff Dyer, and Tim Kreider, among others, who will give a unique perspective on the overwhelming cultural pressure of parenthood. Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed makes a thoughtful and passionate case for why parenthood is not the only path in life, taking our parent-centric, kid-fixated, baby-bump-patrolling culture to task in the process. What emerges is a more nuanced, diverse view of what it means to live a full, satisfying life.

Raising Unselfish Children in a Self Absorbed World

Raising Unselfish Children in a Self Absorbed World
Author: Jill Rigby
Publsiher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 268
Release: 2008-04
ISBN: 141655842X
Category: Family & Relationships
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Raising Unselfish Children in a Self Absorbed World Book Excerpt:

Challenging popular beliefs about self-esteem parenting, a guide for parents recommends an alternative approach that encourages respect for the self and others, in a reference that explains how to foster such values in children as thankfulness and unselfishness. Original. 50,000 first printing.

Narcissistic Fathers Dealing with a Self Absorbed Father and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic Fathers  Dealing with a Self Absorbed Father and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Author: Andrea Hart
Publsiher: Independently Published
Total Pages: 130
Release: 2019-02-27
ISBN: 9781796488005
Category: Family & Relationships
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Narcissistic Fathers Dealing with a Self Absorbed Father and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Book Excerpt:

This book will help you understand and deal with the abuse from narcissistic personality disorder especially the one of the fathers. "The book provides great tips to make life work with a self-absorbed father." -Do you want to understand why you feel the way you do and why life can feel so hard? -Would you like to get proven strategies for coping with a narcissistic father? -Do you need clarity on whether you should break ties with him? In this book, we'll address the complexities of narcissism. What does it mean to be a narcissist, and what are the negative effects on children with narcissistic parents? You'll also find out what separates narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) from having narcissistic traits. You will learn: -How destructive narcissism can be to the emotional and psychological well-being of the victim. -How to recognize the destructive nature in your father-How to fortify your support system -How to accumulate courage and strength to face your narcissistic father without falling prey to the manipulations and abuses. If you wonder why you have lingering feelings of anger, hatred, and resentment toward your narcissistic father, it means you were not able to process the traumatic experiences and you carry the burden wherever you go. You are a prisoner of your feelings and emotions. You don't have to feel trapped in a narcissistic bubble because you can recover from emotional trauma. What's more, the deep wounds inflicted by your father can be healed. You can benefit from knowing that you are not alone, and you are not powerless. You have the capacity to deal with your inner demons and the external forces that are impeding your growth. As an adult child of a narcissistic father, you will have the opportunity to begin to understand why you turned out the way you did so far and why you're struggling to make it through life. You will have come a great tremendous way when you eliminate self-blame and detach yourself from your father's toxic behavior and faulty parenting.The book offers realistic techniques and strategies to help you hurdle the seemingly insurmountable obstacle that is preventing you from moving forward and reclaiming your life.

Lifeboat Cities

Lifeboat Cities
Author: Brendan Gleeson
Publsiher: UNSW Press
Total Pages: 228
Release: 2010-10
ISBN: 1742240046
Category: Political Science
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Lifeboat Cities Book Excerpt:

Today we find ourselves exhausted and depleted by natural and economic disruption. Worse, we face more of the same but on a greater, even more frightening scale. Hopeful and provocative, this book considers the principal social and ecological threats facing Australia, and outlines ways in which these crises need to be confronted and addressed. Brendan Gleeson wants to rouse us and his book makes a big statement about our collective future.

Raising Unselfish Children in a Self Absorbed World

Raising Unselfish Children in a Self Absorbed World
Author: Anonim
Publsiher: Unknown
Total Pages: 135
Release: 2008-04-01
ISBN: 9781417812363
Category: Electronic Book
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Raising Unselfish Children in a Self Absorbed World Book Excerpt:

A Critical History of French Children s Literature

A Critical History of French Children s Literature
Author: Penelope E. Brown
Publsiher: Routledge
Total Pages: 384
Release: 2011-01-07
ISBN: 1135871949
Category: Literary Criticism
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

A Critical History of French Children s Literature Book Excerpt:

This two-volume critical history of French children’s literature from 1600 to the present helps bring awareness of the range, quality, and importance of French children’s literature to a wider audience. The works of a number of French writers, notably La Fontaine, Charles Perrault, Jules Verne, and Saint-Exupéry were, and continue to be, widely translated and adapted, and have influenced the development of the genre in other countries.

Loving the Self absorbed

Loving the Self absorbed
Author: Nina W. Brown
Publsiher: New Harbinger Publications Incorporated
Total Pages: 182
Release: 2003
ISBN: 9781572243545
Category: Family & Relationships
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Loving the Self absorbed Book Excerpt:

The author helps the partners of narcissistic mates cope by identifying five types of "destructive narcissism" and revealing how each affects relationships. Original.

Me Me Me An Inside Look Into the Fragile Heart of a Self Absorbed Mother

 Me  Me  Me    An Inside Look Into the Fragile Heart of a Self Absorbed Mother
Author: Linda Mather
Publsiher: CreateSpace
Total Pages: 122
Release: 2015-01-27
ISBN: 9781507748664
Category: Electronic Book
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Me Me Me An Inside Look Into the Fragile Heart of a Self Absorbed Mother Book Excerpt:

Self absorbed mothers have been part of our society for millions of years. It has enabled writers to pen fairy tales such as Snow white and Cinderella. They are usually portrayed as evil step mothers rather than biological mothers, although biological mothers are just as capable (either in awareness or totally outside their conscious awareness) of abusing and manipulating the minds and hearts of their offspring. As therapists we are well aware of the 'self absorbed' or narcissistic mother and the impact they have on their children's lives which predominantly come out in adulthood. They fill our therapy rooms and keep us in business. Without a doubt they will access therapy at some point in their life usually after several failed relationships or when suffering with anxiety or depression or both. As their story enfolds we learn about the 'hidden' and often covert abuse they have experienced at the hands and minds of the one person, the first person they have learned to trust, the person who gave birth to them and were supposed to nurture and love them unconditionally throughout their lives, their mother. We now live in a society where we see mums continuously on their computers playing angry birds, candy crush or networking on facebook and taking 'selfies' to publish on social media. They are on their mobile phones, I pads and laptops and their children are crying for attention. They say "just a minute honey" which are nice words if they were not giving a covert message to their children that "this black box in front of my face is far more important than you or your emotions right now." Are they all narcissists we may well ask? People who are self absorbed? No I don't think that they are, but what concerns me the most as a therapist and as a mother is 'what about the lack of emotional attachment' that this 'new' behaviour may have on their children, which makes me ask the question are we nurturing children to become narcissists as they develop. All the theorists will tell us how important emotional attachment to our mother is and without it the impact that this may have on the child's life, both in infancy and in adulthood. Is this behaviour breeding more and more narcissists? Children that do not have their emotional needs met so therefore are not able to meet the emotional needs of significant others in relationships and just as importantly their own children's? In this new world of technology it is extremely frightening how distant we are all becoming to our fellow human beings. We communicate by telephone, by social media, by Skype. We splatter our dirty washing all over social network sites watching out for all the 'likes' and getting a quick 'feel good' fix the more that we get. The book has been written to help clients who feel that they may have had a narcissistic parent. It will enable them to gain an understanding of and insight into the heart and mind of a narcissist mother and to develop an insight into the impact that this now has on their relationships in the here and now. It is also a useful resource for therapists to gain further insight into this subject to enable them to work with and support clients that are presenting in a way that they may have lived through this painful experience. I hope it achieves this and more and helps each and every one of you to recover and move on into healthy, mature and loving relationships and break the cycle of generational narcissism to raise healthy and functional children of your own. Linda Mather

The Nice Girl Syndrome

The Nice Girl Syndrome
Author: Beverly Engel
Publsiher: John Wiley & Sons
Total Pages: 256
Release: 2010-12-17
ISBN: 1118039335
Category: Self-Help
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Nice Girl Syndrome Book Excerpt:

How women can overcome the pressure to please others and feel free to be their true selves Are you too nice for your own good? Do family members manipulate you? Do coworkers take advantage of you? If this sounds familiar, read The Nice Girl Syndrome. In this breakthrough guide, renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships, can show you how to take control of your life and take care of yourself. Engel explains that women today simply cannot afford to be Nice Girls, because women who are too nice send the message that they are easy targets and are much more likely to be victimized emotionally, physically, and sexually. She identifies the seven different types of Nice Girls and helps you understand which type or types might apply to you. Engel helps you determine whether the Nice Girl Syndrome is keeping you in an abusive relationship or in manipulative situations and helps you change Nice Girl beliefs and behaviors that are holding you back. Shows you how to confront the beliefs and behaviors that keep you stuck in a Nice Girl act as you replace them with healthier, more empowering ones Includes inspiring stories of women Engel has worked with who have found the courage and strength to stop taking abuse and start standing up for themselves "This book will challenge, entertain, and empower its readers."--Publishers Weekly (starred review) Written by renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships Filled with wise advice, powerful exercises, and practical prescriptions, The Nice Girl Syndrome shows you step by step how to take control of your life and be your own strong woman.

Psychodiagnostic Assessment of Children

Psychodiagnostic Assessment of Children
Author: Randy W. Kamphaus,Jonathan M. Campbell
Publsiher: John Wiley & Sons
Total Pages: 552
Release: 2008-06-02
ISBN: 0471793590
Category: Psychology
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Psychodiagnostic Assessment of Children Book Excerpt:

An unparalleled resource for accurately diagnosing an array ofchildhood problems Psychodiagnostic Assessment of Children: Dimensional andCategorical Approaches provides comprehensive guidelines forassessing and diagnosing a broad spectrum of childhood disorders.In this groundbreaking new text, Randy Kamphaus (coauthor of theBASC and BASC-II) and Jonathan Campbell discuss both theoreticaland practical aspects of the field. Their detailed coverageprovides students and professionals with important researchfindings and practical tools for accurate assessment and informeddiagnosis. This monumental new work begins by explaining dimensional (e.g.,classification methods that emphasize quantitative assessmentmeasures such as behavior rating scales) and categorical (e.g.,classification methods that emphasize qualitative assessmentmeasures such as clinical observation and history-taking) methodsof assessment and diagnosis. It then highlights assessmentinterpretation issues related to psychological assessment anddiagnosis. The remainder of the text covers constructs and coresymptoms of interest, diagnostic standards, assessment methods,interpretations of findings, and case studies for all of the majorchildhood disorders. The disorders include: * Mental retardation * Learning disability * Autism spectrum disorders * Depression * Anxiety disorders * Traumatic brain injuries * Eating disorders * Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder * Conduct disorder * Oppositional defiant disorder * Substance abuse and dependence * Subsyndromal and hypersyndromal impairments

The Irreducible Needs Of Children

The Irreducible Needs Of Children
Author: T. Berry Brazelton,Stanley I. Greenspan
Publsiher: Hachette UK
Total Pages: 248
Release: 2009-02-23
ISBN: 0786731222
Category: Psychology
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Irreducible Needs Of Children Book Excerpt:

What do babies and young children really need? This impassioned dialogue cuts through all the theories, platitudes, and controversies that surround parenting advice to define what every child must have in the first years of life. The authors, both famed advocates for children, lay out the seven irreducible needs of any child, in any society, and confront such thorny questions as: How much time do children need one-on-one with a parent? What is the effect of shifting caregivers, of custody arrangements? Why are we knowingly letting children fail in school? Nothing is off limits, even such an issue as whether every child needs or deserves to be a wanted child. This short, hard-hitting book, the fruit of decades of experience and caring, sounds a wake-up call for parents, teachers, judges, social workers, policy makers-anyone who cares about the welfare of children.

Intimate Appraisals

Intimate Appraisals
Author: Thomas J. Cottle
Publsiher: UPNE
Total Pages: 336
Release: 2002
ISBN: 9781584651420
Category: Psychology
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Intimate Appraisals Book Excerpt:

An eminent sociologist offers insightful impressions and discussions of American culture and the ways it both liberates and imprisons various social groups.

Overcoming Passive Aggression Revised Edition

Overcoming Passive Aggression  Revised Edition
Author: Tim Murphy,Loriann Oberlin
Publsiher: Hachette UK
Total Pages: 336
Release: 2016-10-25
ISBN: 0738219193
Category: Self-Help
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Overcoming Passive Aggression Revised Edition Book Excerpt:

In Overcoming Passive-Aggression, Dr. Tim Murphy and Loriann Hoff Oberlin provide an in-depth look at a topic we've all faced but haven't always recognized: Hidden anger. When people don't express their views and feel compelled to conceal their true beliefs and emotions, behaving in ways that don't match what they honestly think, there can be serious physical and psychological results for everyone involved. For the first time, Murphy and Oberlin offer a clear definition of passive-aggression and show readers not only how to end the behavior, but also how to avoid falling victim to other people's hidden anger. In clear, compassionate language, they cover everything from the childhood origins of the condition to the devastating effect it has on work and personal relationships to the latest research on the subject, and offer practical, proven strategies for the angry person as well as the individual who finds himself the target of someone else's passive-aggression.